Old Seasons, New Seasons, and Question Marks

praying for our city poster Jan ParonIt is Monday and there are those who read my online material who may stumble across my words, “Yes, I am a Monday morning lover! I think it is, because I enjoy starting a new week, realizing that as we move through the week, it is another day that God gifts me with!  I changed my schedule for the day. Usually every morning Monday thru Friday I record a daily audio called; Backyard Chat w/ Nancy J. 

There is construction noise going on outside my window. Lots of sound from sledge hammers, saws, smaller hammers and worker chat. A new porch is beginning to emerge as the old is being torn apart. Life is like that sometime isn’t it? The old life from the previous season of life must be torn down and removed to step into the new season. As I write this once again I realize I am in a new season of life! In new seasons we live in the known and at the same time the unknown. In the new season we are willing to walk by faith as each new day approaches. I don’t know about you, but I enjoy a new season with what I do know and even the part of life that is still a question mark!

For example 4 weeks ago I began co leading a time of praying for our cities. When this idea arrived my co leader and I set this up within one week. We had no idea that we would be launching this, but we were willing to step into the new challenge. This week we are stepping into week 4 and we continue on in this season. We are Praying for our cities!

Simple Days, Healthy Days


fountainflowers, park

Sunday was one of those days that I was feeling restless. Have you ever felt that way? As I wandered through the city eventually I stopped at a park, sat on a bench looking at a beautiful fountain, ate my lunch with no desire to be with people. It did not take long for me to realize as I sat looking at this fountain to realize that the restlessness was not, because of some big problem in my life. It was simply because Monday thru Saturday was busy and I was tired! I am one of those people who must give herself permission to be feel tired! As I sat on the bench, in the quiet, looking at the fountain said to myself, ” I am giving myself permission to be tired!” I stared at the water for about 30 more minutes and simply stared at the fountain and thought about absolutely nothing of importance. I simply sat!

Eventually, I began to walk through the park taking pictures of flowers. I allowed myself to experience a quiet day, with no conversations with anyone. By late afternoon I found myself simply going home and taking a nap.

Even Jesus left the crowds to rest. Simple days, are healthy days that prepare us for the week to come.

The Relationship Project w/ Nancy J.


The Relationship Project is a community where we learn and grow together. The topics are based on Christianity and the bible in 3 areas of relationships.

We journey through relationships together as we grow in our discipleship as believers in Jesus Christ.

The Relationship Project focuses on 3 topics.
1- Our Relationship with Jesus Christ.
2- Our Relationship with other believers in Christ. (In Community)
3- Our Relationship with those who do not believe in Jesus Christ.

More about the relationship project

1- I am almost finished rewriting the one day workshop on Relationships in the three topics I shared above. The one day workshop was taught in the U.S.A. and in 2 other countries outside of my own. The goal is for this to be shared in a hard copy form with leaders in other countries.

2- On Tuesday evening at 8 p.m. EDT time  a group of women meet by conference call and prayer for their cities. If any women are interested in joining us contact me for more details at; Relationshipswithnancy@gmail.com

3- Currently we are in the middle of a technology upgrade. The Relationship workshop will be available online and set up to reach the global community. We will be able to teach our material and disciple online 24/7.

4- Future trips planned to 3 countries to continue discipling and teaching others.

5- Preparing to teach an online 3 week course; Learning To Live With A Calm Heart In A Chaotic World.

6- A 2nd online course is in the design stages. This is a course that is designed to teach christian leaders Interpersonal Communication For Christian Leaders.

7- Once I relocate my office we will be offering onsite courses, with more to come.

Thank you for your interest in, The Relationship Project. Please be sure to contact Nancy for additional information, to schedule a one day Relationship workshop, or invite Nancy J. to speak as a guest. Connect with her here > Relationshipswithnancy@gmail.com

Go to link below for information and details to assist with, “The Relationship Project.”


See video below explaining how the Go Fund Me finances will be used.




Important message- The Relationship Project is not a women’s ministry. The workshop is available for women only or a mixed gender group.

Vulnerability On A Page, by Nancy J.

1237362_10151866246408556_648465001_o  For the last few years people continue to ask, when will you   finish your book on your life, we are waiting! Finally this morning once again, I am working on my memoir. I began to write early this morning as the sun began to rise. I am starting all over again, because I am not pleased with my previous first few pages. In writing with honesty and transparency with heart filled stories, it requires the writer to walk through the emotion, to see the scenes and to place the words on the screen. It is not always easy to be vulnerable in the writing, especially when the life we write about is our own that is woven within the mosaic of life with others.

Yet without vulnerability it is not memoir, instead our life becomes a research paper in a cold and dry way. This morning I do not begin at the beginning of my life, or whenever the end will be. Instead I begin with the recent happenings and changes. I am writing from the inside out, understanding as I write that many times relationships are not always what they seem to be. My story begins, with today; A cool summer morning, with a large silver fan noisily turning in the window. I am sitting in front of my computer dressed in summer clothes and no shoes, preparing to make a cup of tea in a new cup a friend gave me, pondering the recent change in my life, looking forward to what is ahead, and at the same time looking behind to write my story.

It is in this place and this time, that I begin. It is a new season, of leaving old things behind to walk into the new. In this change there is a joy and at the same time a sadness. A sadness, for what could have been, but will not be, because there are times in life that we must let go of the old, to live fully in what God has for us in the new season of life. ~Nancy J.~

(The Relationship Project Memoir 2014)

When I Falter And Become Discouraged, by Nancy J.


I did not plan on writing a blog post tonight, but as I wind down for the evening I believe it is time for me to share my honest transparent thoughts. Very seldom will anyone hear me say the words, “I am discouraged.” They may hear me say, “I am tired, but not discouraged.” I am one of those people who takes a while for reality to set in. Especially when people around me turn my world upside down, and I have no control of the upside down motion. It is not that I am a person who tries to control life, but one who expects the best in people. Then those I think the best of begin to speak words that pull the strings of my heart, bring tears to my eyes and attack me as a person and life changes. It is in this place that I begin to falter and I become discouraged. It is in this place that I begin to admit that there are people in this world that do not care about the feelings of others. They do not take in to account how they speak to others. They are christian leaders who others do not place on a pedestal, instead they place themselves on a pedestal. It is a most dangerous place to be!

The most difficult part of what I write about here is not, because the words that were recently spoken to me cut deep, but that these words are also spoken to people who may be weaker in their faith. Just maybe all of the articles we are reading about people, especially young adults who are leaving the church ( as an organization) are wrong. What if they are leaving, because of what they see in community, what they hear, and what message they are given? Could it be that they are tired, of trying to fit in when each community has different rules, different expectations, different structures and different hoops to jump through to be accepted?  Could it be that because what is permissible in one church community, is not permissible in another and as leaders we are causing confusion? Is it time for christian leaders to begin taking responsibility for how they speak to others, no matter the age of the person? Could it be that we have placed taskmasters in prominent leadership positions, who will duplicate themselves with a generation of taskmasters, which in turn sets in motion the perpetual leaving of those who no longer desire to be part of a church community?

Is it time for christian leaders to examine how they speak to the body of Christ in interpersonal relationships? Does the attitude of the heart and the words we speak only apply to those we lead and not to ourselves as leaders?

The questions I ask in this post will anger a few, but then again maybe not, because they are to busy wielding the rod of authority to care that there is another way to lead, that builds the body of Christ up and does not tear it down. In their mind they stay away from pages in the bible that talk about grace, mercy and love, for these are words that bring leaders down to the level of those in the body of Christ.

Could it be, that it is time for leaders to take a look at their interpersonal communication style with the body of Christ? It is not an easy thing to do, but in the end it will bring the body of Christ together as one and it will be built up.